This is a response to an article I read on the blog GirlDefined, I do not agree with their beliefs behind their blog but I occasionally read it to keep up with what is often being taught in the denominational world. I never imagined responding to one of their posts because they are usually correct in their gists if not biblically backed up because of the lack of verses.
However, when I went to their site and saw the phrase that was once pounded into my head even when I was contemplating suicide,
“You Don’t Need to Love Yourself More”
I had to respond.
The problem here is that there is a common misconception about sin and sin nature. Growing up I was told that I had sin in me, I heard many people call children as young as infants who couldn’t even reason enough to do something sinful “sinners”.
Sin separates us from God, most people can agree with that. Isaiah 59:1-2 says:
“Behold, the Lord‘s hand is not shortened, that it cannot save; neither his ear heavy, that it cannot hear: But your iniquities have separated between you and your God, and your sins have hid his face from you, that he will not hear.”
God does not hear sinners (see also John 9:31) and everyone who dies in sin will go to hell (Matthew 9:43-48).
The problem with believing that we are born sinners besides it being biblically incorrect (I will expand on that in a second) is that, with that logic, every infant and child that wasn’t in Christ and thus redeemed is now in hell because God cannot be around sin.
Now, to explain why we aren’t born sinners but become sinners:
Sin entered the world, not us
Many people believe that because of Adam and Eve’s sin that we inherited their sin, while the fall did happen (Genesis 3), sin entered the world not us.
Ezekiel 18:20 says:
“The soul that sinneth, it shall die. The son shall not bear the iniquity of the father, neither shall the father bear the iniquity of the son: the righteousness of the righteous shall be upon him, and the wickedness of the wicked shall be upon him.”
We cannot inherit sin. We might suffer from it and from the choices of our parents, but it isn’t our sin.
If I was born in an abusive household, am I an abuser or alcoholic because my parents are? No. But growing up in that environment might steer me towards becoming like them because I would be growing up surrounded by sin, and this is how it is in the world.
The world is full of sin, but we aren’t born sinners, we become sinners.
2. We are fearfully and wonderfully made
“I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Marvelous are Your works, And that my soul knows very well.”-Psalm 139:14
God made you! The one who made the stars, the sea, the sunlight that filters through library windows, and so many more beautiful things made you as well.
Not only that, but He loved us so much that He sent His Son to die for us so when we become sinners after growing up in a sinful world that we have a way to get out of sin and make it to heaven.
“Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new.”-2 Corinthians 5:17
3. You have a choice
“I call heaven and earth as witnesses today against you, that I have set before you life and death, blessing and cursing; therefore choose life, that both you and your descendants may live; that you may love the Lord your God, that you may obey His voice, and that you may cling to Him, for He is your life and the length of your days…”-Deuteronomy 30:19-20
Since the beginning, God has given us freewill, sadly, many choose to sin and that sin can often affect others (think of all the car wrecks because of drunk drivers), but we can choose to follow Him instead of the world and we can find life in Him once again.
This all being said, should we love ourselves?
I’m not talking about being prideful or selfish by putting yourself over others, but just knowing your worth.
I am not a sinner anymore, I am a Christian who sins (1 John 1:7).
I am in Christ. I am His child once again.
I wouldn’t be here without God, I don’t even know if I would still be here if I hadn’t become a Christian in 2018, but I am strong. I made the choice to follow Him and I make it daily. I stand up for what I believe in and I am strong and that is beautiful, and I love the person who I am becoming in Christ. Sometimes I slip, but I’m learning to always get back up and get back to work.
I am strong.
I am beautiful.
I am worthy.
I am capable.
I am so, so much more than I grew up being taught.
And if you are in Christ, dear sister, you are as well. If you’re not in Christ, God loves you and wants you to return to Him.
I know people who have such low self-esteem that they are constantly tearing themselves down, and that’s not humility, that’s not knowing what the Bible says about our worth.
The Bible tells us to look at ourselves with sober judgment (Romans 12:3), we are not supposed to be prideful, we need to have the introspection to always look at our heart and make sure it’s in the right place.
We are also told that we are God’s creation created in Christ Jesus for good works (Ephesian’s 2:10).
I love others because God told me to (John 15:12), because He created them, He died for them, and He died for me too.
At the end of the day, it’s important to know your value and identity in Christ, if you have obeyed the gospel, and are walking faithfully, you are a child of God. Don’t let anyone, including yourself, tell you that you are anything less because that is the greatest thing you can be.