Two Truths about Your Worth

When I was asked to write about confidence and self-image, I couldn’t help but feel like the worst person to do that.

I am not confident by any means, I can be and am deeply insecure about everything about myself.

It’s been a struggle and something that I am also still working on, so I get it.

It doesn’t matter how many times you are told you’re pretty, you’re still not going to believe it at the end of the day. 

It doesn’t matter how much you diet and workout, you’re still going to look in the mirror and think fat

It doesn’t matter how many friends you make or how many guys ask you out, you’re still going to feel unlikable. 

I’ll tell you a secret now:

All the makeup, plastic surgery, money, and anything else that this world tells you that will make you happy and secure, won’t. 

Why is that?
Because we are searching for our worth in all the wrong places. 

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Here are two truths I think we all need to tell ourselves every day:

 

1. God defines my worth

“For You formed my inward parts; You covered me in my mother’s womb.  I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; marvelous are Your works, and that my soul knows very well. My frame was not hidden from You,
When I was made in secret, and skillfully wrought in the lowest parts of the earth.”-Psalm 139:13-15

God defines your worth, not a significant other, not a number of likes, friends, or how many compliments you do or don’t get. God created you fearfully and wonderfully, His works are marvelous, and so are you. 

2. I am created for God’s glory

Our purpose is to ultimately bring glory to God.

For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand that we should walk in them.”-Ephesians 2:10

We don’t exist to be good looking, popular, athletic, or top of our class, not that there’s anything wrong with any of these things, but they’re not the point.

They aren’t eternal. 

Your value doesn’t decrease because the world and people of it cannot see your worth in Christ.

“Are not five sparrows sold for two farthings, and not one of them is forgotten before God? But even the very hairs of your head are all numbered. Fear not therefore: ye are of more value than many sparrows.”-Luke 12:6-7

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You are worth so much more than this world will ever tell you, so don’t listen to it, listen to the truth found in God’s word.

“Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing, But a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised.”-Proverbs 31:30

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Modesty: The Definition and Those That Ignore It

Modesty.

Even the word used to make me feel immediately defensive when I was younger.

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Modesty.

That word with that vague meaning that snobby, stuffy people dressed as pilgrims used to make themselves feel superior to everyone else. <—–My old definition.

At the ripe old age of thirteen, I was up in arms about it. My family and I use to dress more conservatively, but I remember the day when I realized that my knee-length khaki shorts weren’t “trendy”.

The memory I have vividly is going to the fair and seeing all the other girls wearing makeup and short shorts and feeling so plain and out of place.

I started pushing for shorter shorts, shorter dresses, lower cut shirts after that, my parents didn’t like it but they realized that they wouldn’t always be able to control me and feared me going all out when I was eighteen if they tried to repress me.

My mom never approved and it was obvious, but the people at our denominational congregation at the time wore short shorts and low cut shirts, so we had a lot of confusion on the matter.

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So why did I change (literally)?

That is the question most people ask.

When I was baptized, and when I realized that I had been wrong about my previous views, I finally accepted that I needed to know what the Bible really said on topics so I could obey fully and correctly.

In the denominational world, modesty was never fully explained to me, it was vague.

It was “be modest”.

It was the moms telling the girls to wear t-shirts to a pool party while the boys were allowed to be shirtless.

It was never the greek words.

It was never looking back at the old definition for modesty and seeing that it hadn’t changed.

I was taught that modesty was more of a conviction matter. If those shorts don’t bother you, wear them, etc. But I have been learning that’s not what the Bible says at all.

I’ve heard people complain that modesty isn’t a black and white subject, but it is.
Modesty can be added to based on culture (In some countries wearing something shorter than your ankle isn’t ok, so as Christians, we wouldn’t go be immodest in their culture), but it can’t be decreased from what the Bible says.

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What does the Bible say? 


A popular and often used verse is 1 Timothy 2:9:

In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with broided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array”

  • Shamefacedness: a face that can blush, immodesty, or being immodest should shock you.

 

  • Sobriety: Control, clear judgment.

 

  • Broided hair: oftentimes women would braid gold into their hair to show off their wealth, other times they wore gold to advertise that they were selling their bodies.

 

All in all, this verse seems pretty vague on the standard of modesty, right?

 

That’s because modesty had already been defined in the old testament, the people hearing this didn’t need a definition for modesty, they already had one.

Gen 3:7 tells us about Adam and Eve realized that they were naked, thus they made “aprons” for themselves.

  • Chagowr means a loin covering, basically, they covered their private parts.

In verses 9-10, Adam and Eve knew that they were still naked and hid from the Lord.
In verse 21, the Lord made them coats and clothed them.

  • Kethoneth, a tunic, a coat that covered from the shoulders to the knees.

In Isa 47:2, it talks about bringing shame by “making bare the leg, uncover the thigh”. This should bring shame on anyone because it is immodest, and thus nakedness.

In John 21:7, it talks about Peter fishing naked but putting on his coat when he spotted Jesus on the shore to swim to him.
The word for naked that was used is “gymnos” which means “undergarments or clothing that didn’t cover your shoulders and went to your knees”.

I’m not saying that this dismantles the whole “swimming in fewer clothes is okay because it’s swimming” argument… well, actually, I am. Because it does.

There are more verses that talk about clothing and they are:

Lev 16:4, 2 Sam 10:4, Exo 20:26, 1 Thess 4:4, Proverbs  7:10, Proverbs 11:22

I would greatly encourage anyone to study these verses.

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Now, that I’ve explained the biblical definition of modesty, let’s talk about the people who know better but ignore it.

If you know better, do better. 

There’s a difference between being ignorant than being aware of what is immodest and still choosing to be immodest, and that’s a dangerous difference because that is disobedience to God and the standards He set.

I’ll have to admit, I’ve been very sad and disappointed lately.

I joined Instagram yesterday, and I’ve seen pictures of sisters wearing things I know they know are immodest.

I’ve seen skimpy dresses, swimming suits, and leotards, all on girls that I know understand modesty enough to follow it.

These are girls I’ve sat through modesty lessons during summer camp with, girls that I have talked to about modesty before, girls that have nodded their heads along to devotionals about this topic.

Sisters that if I didn’t know them and if I didn’t know they were Christians, I would assume were a member of the world instead of God’s family.

What happened to Romans 12? Is being fashionable in those short shorts really worth ignoring the Bible? 

These are not only sisters I love, but sisters that know better, and it’s terrible.

It’s terrible that you are choosing to disobey the Bible.

It’s terrible that you are posting those pictures for our brothers in Christ to see.

And this isn’t just the girls although our gender is often the bigger culprits, why do I see shirtless pictures of brothers who I know are aware of the definition of Biblical nakedness?

The other day someone made a comment that there are more weak Christian girls than guys and I disagreed.

The difference is that weak Christian girls are easier to spot because they have more options to dress immodestly.  

The guys who shrug at immodesty, repost immodest pictures of girls and set that trash willingly before their eyes are just as weak.

“It doesn’t bother me.”

Either you’re lying or you have been desensitized.

You know what, immodesty when it comes to girls doesn’t bother me either. I can see a girl’s shoulders, thighs, chest, etc. and not care, I’m not attracted to girls, it doesn’t affect me.

But you know what bothers me? The lack of obedience to the Bible when I know those people know better. 

 

And that’s really all I have to say for today, I’ll get off my soapbox now.

If you read this post, please study, and if you know better, do better.

Being modest is hard, but it’s possible, and 100% worth it. 

 

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So This Is Love: The Bachelor’s Lies

If you’re a girl, you probably know of the TV show The Bachelor, an American dating and relationship reality television series that debuted on March 25, 2002, on ABC. The show is hosted by Chris Harrison.

The series revolves around a single bachelor who begins with a pool of romantic interests from whom he is expected to select a wife. (Source of information: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Bachelor_(American_TV_series)

I had heard many other girls around my age talking about this show, so when I came across it while searching for a crime channel, I decided to watch in for a second to see what all the hype was about.

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It started out innocently enough, the bachelor and one of the constants were sitting in a field talking.

The first thing I noticed was how empty and unintelligent the conversation was and how shallow both of them seemed.

It was when they started making out that I changed channels, but not before a narration of the bachelor came in claiming that him and this girl had “chemistry” and that it was “different”. I’ll admit, I got a giggle out of the audacity of it.

Well, I switched through channels and eventually landed back on The Bachelor. 

This time a group of the contestants were being filmed, one, in particular, was sobbing, saying that she was worried that the bachelor would fall in love with his date when he was the one for her.

Do any of these people actually believe they’re going to find love here?  I thought, staring at the screen, at a loss for words. I felt bad for them, the whole thing was so surface level and stupid.

I turned off the TV. 

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That was a few days ago, but I’ve been thinking about how ridiculous that show is ever since.

The show is gross, but the fact that so many girls are calling it “romantic” is even worse because it shows how much we have been lied to about romance.

So here are a few lies shows like The Bachelor tells us about love as women and here are the truths we must remember:

  • Sex equals love

“Marriage is honorable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.” -Hebrews 13:4

Sex is an expression of love, but only in marriage. Outside of marriage, it is sin, it is not love.

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  • Beauty is immodesty

 Favor is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised.”-Proverbs 31:30

I wouldn’t recommend looking at pictures of this show, but if you did, you would notice that almost every dress worn leaves little to the imagination. I think I saw more cleavage while watching five minutes of that show than I would if I went to a public pool, and that alone is kind of terrible.

I strongly dislike the standard and example this sets for girls.

 “Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel;

 But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.”-1Peter 3:3-4

God looks at our hearts.

“for man looketh on the outward appearance, but the LORD looketh on the heart.”
-1 Samuel 16:7

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  • Love is just a feeling

Love is more than infatuation, it’s a noun and verb, it calls for action.

God loved us so much that He sent His Son to die for us (Romans 5:8, John 3:16), if that tells us anything about love, it tells us that love is a sacrifice.

 “Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil;  does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

 Love never fails.”-1 Corinthians 13:4-8

 I don’t know about you, but I didn’t see any of this while watching The Bachelor

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