Coffee Dates: In Every Season

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It’s been a second since I’ve done a post like this because I’ve just been empty when it comes to inspiration, and every time I start writing something it comes off in the wrong way.

However, I’ve realized that what I have been trying to write and keep deleting can be summed up in two sentences: 

It’s hard to be content in every season, especially the lonely ones. 

Right now, I am really struggling with being happy with where I am. 

Wow, that wasn’t so hard to write, I don’t know why I’ve had around ten drafts of me trying to say that… 

Coffee Dates In Every Season

Seasons can be tough.

Maybe you’re like me and you’re in one that you don’t really want to be in right now.

People tell me to enjoy this season of my youth, but as I’m sure you also know, that’s easier said than done. 

It’s hard to be content in a season of singleness when you don’t really want to be single.

It’s hard to be content in a season of youth when it feels like your age (or lack of it) is the only thing people see when they look at you.

It’s hard to be content in a season of little close friends when you crave connection and to be needed by others.

It’s hard, but it’s not impossible.

The Bible tells us in Ecclesiastes 3 that to everything there is a season, which means yes, there is a season to be single, lonely, and young, and even though sometimes it can be hard to understand why, we can still understand that we need to keep going.

“And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not.”-Galatians 6:9

How can the season we’re in be used for good? 

For me, a big thing I realized was time, I have a lot of time, especially since COVID. Sometimes I think that I have way too much time because I often spend it overanalyzing things.

However, I have so much time that I wouldn’t have if I had a social life or a boyfriend, which might sound depressing, but that means that right now, I can wholeheartedly study the word because of how little distractions there are in my life.

Not only I am capable of getting into that habit now when it’s easy versus trying to dedicate myself to it when I’m in a busier season, but I have no excuse. 

I should always make time for God, but right now, I don’t really have to. I already have so much time that I can give to Him instead of using it to worry or wish that I had other things to do.

And you know what? I have come to enjoy parts of this season.

I enjoy being able to read my Bible on my bed while drinking coffee in the morning, I enjoy reading my Bible in the evening, I enjoy being able to go on evening runs, and watching the sunset over the fields. I enjoy talking to my mom late into the night, I enjoy driving back home from work with a little bit more money than I had that morning. I enjoy the quiet of this season.

So, what should you and I do in these seasons? 

We need to refocus and…

  • Seek the kingdom first (Matthew 6:33).
  • Understand that we need to be content where God has put us even when it’s hard (Philippians 4:11).
  • Know that God is with us (Romans 8:28).
  • Know that we are stronger than our struggles when we are with Him (1 Corinthians 10:13).
  • Understand that there is more to life than the things we are currently wanting (Luke 12:15).
  • Trust in the Lord (Psalm 91:1-16 ).

 

The world may tell us that we should always be wanting more, that we are not where we should be at our age or place in life, but the Bible says: 

“And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.”-Romans 12:2

The world may tell us to seek after our own selfish pleasures, but the Bible says: 

“But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about its own things. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble.”-Matthew 6:33-34

When seasons are hard, we really need to take a step back and ask ourselves, “Am I living this season for me or for God?”

And then: “Who should I be living this season for?” 

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How are you doing with the season you’re currently in?

 

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Coffee Dates: Bad Day?

Have you ever had a bad day?

If your mental answer to that question was no, are you human? How long have you been living on this earth? 

Coffee Dates: Bad Day?

Most of us can think of times from recent to even years ago where we were having a bad day.

Maybe you had some good reasons to be upset, maybe you just woke up sad, both happen. 

I was having a bad day (well, more like a bad week if I’m being honest) a few days ago that made me think of this blog topic.

Why was I having a bad week?

There honestly weren’t any great reasons, aside from some petty drama that I wasn’t even involved in, nothing terrible had happened to me that week.

But because I was in that sad and a little bit down on myself state of mind, I soon found other reasons to be sad.

I got my feelings hurt by jokes that were simply that: jokes. Normally, I would have laughed, but instead, I fought back tears.

Clumsy mistakes started seeming like huge travesties on my part.

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It’s like being up at 3 a.m. when you’ve had a long school day: everything just seems ten times worse and like the world is going to end. 

Except, it’s during the day, throughout your week, when you can’t just sit in bed and stare at the wall, you actually have to do stuff.

You have to interact with people, and that’s when your bad day can start affecting other people’s days.

Obviously, most of us don’t want that for others.

We don’t want to make others feel bad, but yet, our bad days can lead to snapping at others, overlooking the needs of friends, and pushing loved ones away.

When we’re so focused on ourselves and our problems, we tend to forget that others have struggles too. 

I could come here and tell y’all that when the bad days come you guys need to take a second and pray, read your Bible, etc…

 

While you should do that, 100%, for some reason people tend to want more of a solution for a bad day.

I’m here to give it.

Are you ready? This could change both of our lives…

Stop focusing on yourself. 

Whoa, and I’m not being sarcastic when I write that, whoa.

One lesson that was taught from my youth group when I was denominational was this one:

The man teaching it that night turned to the white erase board, uncapped his marker, and then looked back at us.

“Kids, I’m about to teach y’all something huge. Something I’m still trying to learn.”

He wrote “It’s not about you” in big blocky letters on that board.

To be honest, that’s all I remember of that lesson.

But it was true:

It’s not about you or me.

 

Isn’t that what a lot of bad days are; us thinking it’s about us?

I know for me it is, I’m being selfish and throwing myself a pity party.

It’s ridiculous, I can be so focused on God and on helping others and then just throw all the progress I’ve made in that area to the wind just because I woke up on the wrong side of the bed.

I don’t want to do that, I don’t want to be like that, and I know you don’t either.

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How can we work on getting better with handling our bad days? 

 

  • Remember the bigger picture. Do we take a second every time we start to focus solely on ourselves to remember God, His sacrifice, His children? We need to look to Him instead of to ourselves. (Proverbs 3:5-7).

 

  • Draw closer to God (James 4:8-9).

 

  • Replace your discouragement with encouragement (1 Peter 4:13).

 

  • Focus on truth (Philippians 4:8).

Are your thoughts on your bad days…

 

-True?

-Honest?

-Just?

-Pure?

-Lovely?

-Of good report?

-Virtuous?

-Praiseworthy?

If not, then why are you thinking of them?

  • Talk to a trusted person in your life, they can help you sort through your emotions. If they’re like my mom, they might Edna-from-the-incredibles-slap you in the face with a magazine, but you don’t have to sort through tough times alone. (Also, my email is always open and I try to respond as soon as possible if you need to reach out for encouragement or prayers).

 

Let’s stop letting our bad days control us.

You’ve got this, friend.

We’ve got this. :))

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Coffee Dates: Being a High School Graduate + How to Make Your Elevator Talk

Hello friend! Today for this talk I am thinking of hazelnut coffee with some almond milk, it’s a favorite of mine when I go places, it’s very calming. What would be your choice?

Coffee Dates: Being a HighSchool Graduate + How to Make Your Elevator Talk

I can’t believe in eight months I’ll be an adult, that’s just scary because I’m barely functioning as a teenager.

I was driving to an elder’s house for a devo one night, and my google maps told me to turn right, so I did and it led me to a construction site, so I called the elder and told him that it led me to a construction site, and he told me to look across the highway. THERE WAS THIS HUGE GATE THAT HAD HIS LAST NAME ON IT.

I was like, “I am so sorry, apparently I am blind and cannot just look across the road.” 

I walked into his house to just a whole group of college guys and elders laughing at me, I honestly should be blonde from all the blonde moments I have.

HOW AM I GOING TO SURVIVE AS AN ADULT?? I have an idea that I’m going to make a lot of people laugh but not because I’m being funny on purpose. ://

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Now that I’m done with high school (it feels weird to write that) and even before I finished, people have been asking me what my plans are for the future. 

This use to cause a lot of anxiety, and if you went through that or are going through it, please know you’re not alone. ❤

I’ve come up with my “elevator talk”, basically you come up with a three-minute-long explanation of your plans and have it all rehearsed so you don’t panic when people ask you about them.

Mine is: “I’m planning on taking a gap year and getting a better job just so I can have some more work experience and money under my belt. Then, I’m considering going to a Bible school, after that I’m still thinking about what I want to do in the long run, but I know I want something I can get certified for instead of having to go to college and deal with the debt from that when in the long run I hope to be a homeschool mom one day and not have a career. However, I want to have something that I can fully support myself with in case I never get married.”

THIS IS A LIVE-SAVER. If you are a senior or even just a junior in high school, make your elevator talk now, it will help you so much. 

(On a side note, I was talking to someone and he told me that he was working towards being a lawyer and then he was like, so Grace, now that you are done with high school, what are you going to do? And yes, it was intimidating a bit to tell him about my small, unsure plans).

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SO HOW DO YOU COME UP WITH YOUR ELEVATOR TALK? You might be wondering.

Well, it’s simple, if you don’t know what you want to do or are unsure about your exact plans because they are ever-changing (like me, my brother makes fun of me for finding a different job I’m interested in pursuing every week), it’s okay to say that in your talk. If you look back on mine, I use words like “planning, considering, thinking,” that way I am not trapping myself by commitment words yet and making it clear that my options are still open to new opportunities right now.

Think about where you would ideally like to be in ten or twenty years, now think about how you will get there, or if you’re like me and want a more traditional life, think about what you can do in the meantime while waiting that you will enjoy if it ends up being the rest of your life.

Be honest, but be confident. You’ve got this, no matter what it is, you can do it if you put your mind to it, my friend. 

Just remember that you can do anything, but not everything, make sure God is always first.

The future can be scary, but take a deep breath, because whatever happens, we got it.

 

Wow, coffee and talking about the future, how very grownupish for our first coffee date! 😉

 

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What is your elevator talk/speech??

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