June Wrap-up

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I’ll admit it: June was tough. 

Yes, there were so many good parts of this month. I met so many great people and made some good memories, but I did struggle and am struggling with feeling really down.

Yet, I’m still here, I’m still fighting, and I’m not giving up. :))

Happenings

 

Helped out with a men’s conference at my congregation 

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Got to see a friend who has been staying home due to covid

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Celebrated father’s day

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Loving my little buddy

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I also have added Psalm 119 to what I am studying in the Bible using Come Fill Your Cup which you can check out the daily study here

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Well, that’s kind of all I have! 

If you haven’t already, go follow my Instagram if you want to keep up with me on more of a weekly basis than just monthly. :))

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Dear Parents, Where are You?

Maybe I’m not the person to be writing this post, I’m not a parent, I really have no qualifications when it comes to giving advice to parents.

Maybe you’re a parent and you’re reading this and already think I’m rude and immature, maybe you’re wondering where my parents are.

Maybe you already feel disrespected by this post although that is the farthest thing from my intentions.

Maybe you want me to be silent. To you my age means that I cannot think for myself or speak for myself, so I should not be addressing you at all.

Children are to be seen and not heard, right?  

Where are your parents? You might be thinking, but I am here to ask you: where are you? 

Dear Parents

Where are you when there are adults commenting sexual things in the comment sections of videos of your nine-year-old dancing to an explicit song on tik tok?

Where are you when your fifteen-year-old daughter is posting sensual photos on Instagram looking like a twenty-five-year-old?

Where were you when your son got addicted to pornography?

Where were you when your daughter got pregnant?

 

I know it’s not fair to blame it all on the parents, y’all are human too, but where were you?
Where are you?

 

Maybe you’re reading this and thinking, “I’m glad my kid isn’t doing stuff like that.”

Are you sure? 

I am here to tell you that as a peer of your children and as someone whose younger siblings are peers to your children, that there’s a lot you don’t know.

I see twelve-year-olds with iPhones with full access to the internet, and I shutter.

Because I know.

Peer pressure.

Social media.

Anything they can imagine at the tips of their fingers, all they have to do is go to a search bar. 

If you’re not looking over your child’s shoulder, if you’re not picking up their phone and going through it, you’re dumb.

I trust my child, you say.

Ok, but you are their defender, you’re their advocate, and you’re just going to stand aside and let them be attacked like this?

I scrolled through the accounts a boy that I had been talking to followed on Instagram, account after account was soft porn… he followed over 2,000 people.

He wasn’t a minor anymore, but he had been on social media for years, where were his parents when he followed the first accounts?

 

It’s discouraging as a seventeen-year-old girl to realize that I am the one having the conversation with your sons about sex outside of marriage, pornography, and all these other issues because you didn’t. 

I look at my generation, a generation of boys and girls who are ruining themselves and already ruining future relationships, and I am so thankful that my parents loved me enough to not trust me fully. 

I’m thankful that the first phone I got only sent texts and calls and barely even did that.

I’m thankful that when I finally got a nicer phone, my parents took off safari, didn’t let me get social media, didn’t allow me to download apps without them looking into it, approving, and putting in their password. I’m thankful that they read through my texts, and went through everything.

Was it embarrassing at the time? Yes.

Was it hard to feel left out when all my friends downloaded snapchat, Instagram, and everything else? Yes.

Would it have been worth the exposure to sex, language, and worldliness that floods my eyes now when I make the mistake of clicking on some people’s profiles? No.

 

I am so thankful that my parents were there. I’m thankful they’re still there. When I check my Instagram and see who viewed my recent story, my mom’s name is always the first to pop up, and I am thankful. I need accountability, I need parents, not another friend. 

 

I am so thankful that they are there for my brother, hopefully, he’ll never make another girl feel terrible when she looks through who he follows and sees naked girls with unattainable bodies–hopefully, he won’t have an account to follow them on for years, if ever.

I can’t imagine how hard and overwhelming it can be for y’all, but just like your children can access information in a second, so can you. 

I’m asking you this, no, I’m begging, please be there. 

Please put parental controls.

Please look through their phone.

Please don’t let this go on.

 

This is coming from a seventeen-year-old, we need y’all. 

Your sons need you.

Your daughters need you.

We need you to be there. 

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What Are You Paying Attention To?

It can be hard to pay attention. 

I remember sitting through chemistry and trying so hard to listen, but it seemed like the teacher was speaking in a different language, I couldn’t wrap my head around it, and I kept slipping up and thinking about how I’d design a project I was working on instead.

Listen! I would tell myself when I realized I had drifted off, We’re not here to plan where to put what color sequins. 

In my brain it would go as follows: “Stoichiometry, focus on stoichiometry. What is she saying about it? Uhh, I don’t understand. I have to  l i s t e n…  forming a compound…. you know what? I should swirl those sequins into a pattern while the glue is wet, that’d be really cool and fun to do…. wait a minute, focus. Stoichiometry .” 

…And the Lord said unto him… (2)

I don’t struggle with it as much anymore in settings like that, but I’ve realized that I also get distracted in my daily life.

One moment I’m focusing on God and His word and the next I am stressing about my future.

In Hebrews 2:1 it says:

“Therefore we ought to give the more earnest heed to the things which we have heard, lest at any time we should let them slip.”

Sometimes I let what I know slip.

I know that I need to love my siblings, but in anger I often lash out with rude words, slip.

I know that I need to tell others about the gospel, but sometimes my fear of ruining my friendship with them holds me back, slip.

I know I need to put others before myself, but so often I’m so insecure that I fail to look outside of me and my problems, slip. 

I know I need to read my Bible and pray, but sometimes it becomes just another thing I mentally check off instead of my time learning more about God and deepening my relationship with Him, slip. 

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All this slipping, you know you can also fall. 

“Wherefore let him that thinketh he standeth take heed lest he fall.”-1 Corinthians 10:12

This is why we have to pay attention to where we stand, what we are focusing on, and what our priorities are.

In Galatians 5:4 one of the saddest phrases, in my opinion, is used:

“Christ is become of no effect unto you” 

How could the One who created the universe become of no effect to me?

Because I failed to pay attention, I let myself slip, I let myself fall and stay fallen.

This verse ends with: “ye are fallen from grace.”

Truly heartbreaking.

I don’t want Christ to become of no effect to me, I hope you don’t either.

“But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.”-Matthew 6:33

We have to pay attention to God and His Word. 

Colossians 3:2, tells us to set our affection on things above, not on things on the earth.

While it’s easy to say that we are setting our affections on things above, what does our daily life say about us? 

If someone was to read your mind for the day, what information would they leave with? 

If your daily activities were recorded like your search history, what would someone say your interests are? 

What or who do you pay the most attention to? Yourself? Your relationships? Your pets? Your hobbies?

Can you honestly answer “God”?

I know I can’t but I know I want to, I know I am working on being able to truthfully answer His name, and together, we can grow stronger and reach that point, starting now.

One of my favorite verses is Proverbs 7:2-3, and it reads:

“Keep my commandments, and live; and my law as the apple of thine eye.

 Bind them upon thy fingers, write them upon the table of thine heart.”

I love the imagery here. If God’s commandments are the apple of my eye, it’s my main focus, it’s what I am paying attention to. If they are bound on my fingers that means it’s what I see when I reach for anything other than God. With every beat of my heart, I want to remember and live for His word and Him.

I pray this for myself, and I pray it for you, dear reader: that God will be our main focus, our top priority, and that our attention will stay on Him as we live our lives for Him.

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I know this post was a bit shorter than usual, but it’s been something I’ve been thinking about.

What do you give your attention to?

How can you start focusing more on the Lord today?

 

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