Waiting for a Relationship

It seems like everyone else is constantly noticed but me.

Will I always be the third wheel? The comic relief? The person that is dragged along because I help make things less awkward between my two friends that like each other by keeping the conversation flowing?

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A few weeks ago, I went out to dinner with some friends and the topic of characteristics in girls that one of my friends was looking for came up.

“Maybe in a year or two-“ one friend started.

“But I want a relationship now. I’m looking now.”

Our friend stated, shaking his head.


I don’t know about you, but I really relate to wanting a relationship now.

It’s February which means Valentine’s day is coming up, which also means we’ll see happy couples celebrating their relationships. While I’m happy for them, it seems like another reminder that I haven’t met anyone.

I’m newly seventeen, but still, I catch myself feeling discouraged when I see all of my friends meeting and talking to guys while I’m over here being a third wheel.

What if I never meet anyone? There are so many great Christian girls who are still single, how is there hope for me? 

But what does God say to us when we are feeling discouraged about the future?

For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope.”-Jeremiah 29:11

God’s timing >>> all of our plans.


Things we need to work on while waiting: 


  • Work on your relationship with God

If your relationship with God (the most important thing in your life) isn’t stable, what makes you think you’re ready for any other type of relationship? The Bible says to study to show ourselves approved unto God (2 Timothy 2:15), are you studying like you should be?

The Bible tells us to pray without ceasing (1 Thessalonians 5:17), how is your prayer life?

We’re also told to spread the gospel (Matthew 28:19), are you helping others find God?

These should be the first questions on our minds daily instead of “who will I marry?”


  • Work on your relationship with others

We are told to love our brothers and sisters in Christ (1 Peter 4:8), they are our family, they are closer than blood.

We are also called to be servants (Galatians 5:13, Ephesians 2:10), get involved in serving others. Bring food to the sick, visit your brothers and sisters in the hospital, make something for people on their birthdays. Be encouraging to those around you.

We need to be focusing on others instead of ourselves.


  • Work on your relationship with yourself

I can’t remember who I heard say this, but a person once said, “I don’t want my daughters to date until they know who they are so they don’t try to find their identity in a guy.” 

Do you know who you are in Christ? More importantly, are you able to remember who you are? I know who I am but so often I find myself not remembering who I am and not remembering my worth.

We cannot depend on other people to determine our worth because they will let us down, however, God won’t, we need to know who we are.

No relationship is more important than your relationship with God, no relationship will fulfill you like the Lord will.

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23 thoughts on “Waiting for a Relationship

  1. I totally get how you feel. I kind of reached the point where it seems like all of my friends are dating. For me, taking an entire year away from the people I thought defined me (when I moved to another state) was the best way not only learn so much more about God, but also to discover who I was in relation to Him and who I wanted to be. It’s always hard to hold on and wait, but God’s timing always pays off in the end. Thanks for sharing, Gray!

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  2. A HUGE amen, Gray. And I love that you gave points for working on our relationship with God, others, and ourselves. I’m so thankful to be single still and to have been able to experience some trials pm my own. It’s taught me how I view God separate from people, how to love people of different values than mine, and how to simply enjoy my own time as a recovering clingy extrovert. I love my life so much and am so thankful for the freedom singleness has granted me. And yes, I want to marry and believe in ready. But I’m not so desperate 😂

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  3. So true, Grace. This post is really inspiring, considering the fact that relationships nowadays are based mainly on ‘ephemerals’. This fellow singe girl gives you a thumbs up!


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